Rejection 1

Rejection. To reject yourself or to be rejected by others. Which one is worse? Which one hurts the most? What kind of rejection is more destructible? To reject yourself is to not see or answer to your needs and needs differ from one person to the next. To reject yourself is not to see how important it is, to live life is and be at ease with yourself and appreciate all you have to offer.

What can happen if you reject yourself and if you neglect your deepest desires? What would be the outcome? Rejecting yourself indicates low self-esteem and no sense of self-worth. It shows you don't feel deserving of anything good, sacred or precious in life. Not seeing that you're rejecting yourself and at the same time being scared of being rejected by another person is so contradicting. Because you were never scared of rejecting yourself, you just did it, without realizing it. You didn't cherish what it was you had, you needed and you wanted. And being scared of being rejected by another person shows that you see more worth in that person than you do in yourself. You had more fear of being rejected by another person than being rejected by yourself.

You were scared that by opening-up and showing your true feelings to another person, that you'd be rejected. They might walk away and you'd be left alone, with a broken heart. If they were to leave you, they'd take something of you with them. So surely it's wise to protect yourself and see it as being safer by not even thinking or engaging with the feelings and possibilities of what could be, if were you to be fearless of being rejected by that special person.

It would make much more sense for yourself to feel fear of being rejected by yourself than being rejected by someone you care deeply about. There can be so much damage done by rejecting yourself. The term "stand by your man" should be rephrased to: "Stand by yourself".. well, maybe only if you a person who has rejected or neglected themselves in the past or felt non-deserving of love from another person. It is also said that in order to appreciate and accept love from another person, you have to learn to love yourself first. And it's true. To have a lasting, dependable, indestructible and strong relationship with yourself based on selfworth would only give you what you need to fully embrace the love that someone gives to you in a relationship.

You have rejected yourself so there is no sense of self-worth. For years, you have convinced yourself you don't deserve anybody that you see as being "out of your league" and you tell yourself over and over again that there isn't any point in opening-up to how you really feel about that person. So this has become a part of you. It brings you down without you even realizing it. You have learned to face facts that you're just never going to be pretty, smart or good enough for anybody special. You have also told yourself never to reach for the stars, when it comes to being loved by another, because nothing will ever come of it, only pain. You have already told yourself to settle for second best. But how awful is that, for that person, who in your eyes is classed as "second best"? Doesn't that just say that you think that person isn't as worthy a person as that special someone who you can't stop thinking of and who will always have a special place in your heart? Doesn't that say a lot about you and that you judge people and that you don't feel that every person deserves as much happiness as the next person? Doesn't it say that you think there are only a few people on this planet that are extra special and have a "shinier diamond" than the majority of people on this planet? No, this isn't the case, because you know everyone is special and you see the good in everyone else, except for yourself.

In your eyes someone can be classed as being "out of your league" but in somebody else's eyes that person might not be seen as such an extraordinary human being. But you seem to think that everyone thinks like you. Of course this isn't the case. Everyone sees different things in different people. Everyone needs different things from a relationship. It just doesn't mean that the person who is chosen as "second best" in your eyes, is less special. Because everyone is special is their own way. Not everyone chooses to see the good in each and every person. But if everyone could and did and if you choose to see it too, and I know you do, you could also see the good in yourself. So why can't you see it? It's because for years you have told yourself otherwise.

By seeing the good in yourself, just like you see in others, means that you can learn how to love yourself again. Can you then accept someone else to love you? Can you accept the fact that you deserve to feel happiness and accept the fact that you deserve this love and can you then know that whatever might or might not happen will never inflict any harm on you as a person, because you yourself will never reject what's most important in life, which is you? Is that possible?

Never rejecting yourself will give you confidence and stability within. It will reassure you that all is well in your world, no matter what happens. It's the place that tells you that you're fearless. So by being fearless you are fearless to open-up. Fearless to take risks. Fearless to show vulnerability. Fearless of the future. But without fear there is no future because feeling fear is predicting the future. So without one, the other doesn't exist. Each day is all you have. You don't know what will happen next week, next year. The future is now and with each choice and each deed you do, you are creating it, as it's happening. You are living it right now. A timeless mind because there isn't any fear.
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